Wednesday, September 27, 2017

When Time Is Of The Essence

"I partnered with Valvoline Instant Oil Change for this project, however opinions here are my own."

I admit to being a complete novice when it comes to auto care and maintenance. I know that getting a oil change is a necessity of auto care but it seems like it takes so much effort to schedule an appointment and take the time out of my day. As a busy work from home mom, I don't really have the time to sit in an facility all day waiting for my car. I also don't want to feel like a fool when they ask me questions I don't know the answer too. 

Luckily , Valvoline Instant Oil Change is a full service 15-minute drive thru oil change with no appointment needed! Which is basically ideal for a busy mama like myself. Customers, like me, can stay in their cars during the entire service making necessary car maintenance easy for busy people and moms since, the kids don’t have to get out of the car. I can still work while I get my oil changed! 

This is game changing y'all. 

Valvoline Instant Oil Change  is selling AutoTex PINK Wipers throughout October (Breast Cancer Awareness Month) with proceeds going to National Breast Cancer Foundation (NBCF) 

You have the ability to choose from all pink or black wipers with a pink ribbon, the all weather wipers can be purchased at select participating Valvoline Instant Oil Change locations found  here . 

While I'm not usually one for this type of car adornment breast cancer has impacted my family heavily over the last decade. I lost my grandmother due to her's progressing back in 2010. My mother has gone two rounds with it and we recently lost my sister in love Mimi, last Fall after a two year long battle. 

Similar to my lack of regular auto care, I used to take for granted my need to get to the doctor and get checked out consistently. If nothing else, I've learned the importance of regular checks and exams for my body. 

The same can be said for my car. Similar to my own body, it's my method of transport to get from point A to B so it makes sense that I take care of it similarly right? Right.

So now I'm sort of excited to step into a Valvoline Instant Oil Change and get my car taken care of while I still get my work done IN THE CAR. I'm also happy to hear that Valvoline Instant Oil Change is doubling National Breast Cancer Foundation donations on all wipers purchased on the September 30th Pink Out Launch Day!

If you want to learn more about the campaign or purchase wipers near you check this out  

Let's all work together to find a cure! 


Grief Is Such Bullsh*t

Grief is such bullshit because you never know when it will sneak up on you. It often comes fast and seemingly out of nowhere. Lurking just below the surface waiting to catch you off guard and it does, fast and hard. Sometimes it's in crying fits, other times its through vivid memories but no matter how it shows up. It's never convenient.

It's been almost a year that my sister in love Mimi lost her battle with breast cancer and it doesn't hurt any less now than it did on that fateful day in November. I admit we've done a pretty good job at "getting on with life" and going about our day to day. But the last few weeks and months have been especially hard. 

She would have celebrated her 47th birthday this past August and her son turned 24 the day after hers. It was bitter sweet for us all. We didn't know what to do. Do we celebrate in her honor or do we mourn our loss and drink away our sorrows? 

My Facebook memories have been especially harsh. They reminded of the day we published the GoFundMe to help with hospital bills and treatment plans. And it was only a few weeks later that she was gone.

This week Sweet Pea will be attending her second Homecoming. It's a fun and exciting time for us. Shopping for dresses and shoes. Picking out what jewelry to wear and what purse she will carry. And while I was enjoying the process my mind couldn't help but rewind to a year ago this time. Mimi had been in and out of the hospital for weeks. There were so many things about her health that were up in the air but still she was all about the kids. Auntie Mimi loved the kids. That much has always been certain.

I remember her asking me if we had found a dress and to send her photos of the ones we liked. So I did. Because I knew that would make her happy. She vetoed a few in her own way and I can still hear her voice in my head when I sent her THE one. She giggled and proclaimed how she liked it. We discussed hair and makeup and she made me promise to send pics once she was fully done up. 
And I did. With great pleasure. 

So yesterday while I was out picking up Sweet Pea's dress for this year's festivities it hit me hard. She would have LOVED this. I can hear her now, raving about the color and the sequins. Joking with me about the style and how grown up she looked. I may or may not have shed a few tears while standing in the store. It hurts more than I ever thought. For someone who wasn't blood but still my family. I miss her more and more everyday. 
And I know I'm not alone in my grief. I see it in my husband's eyes when our son mentions her and tells stories from when he was younger. Stories we didn't think he remembered but somehow does. I hear it in my other sister-in-loves voices when we share old photos and laughs about nights long gone. I see her in their smiles, hear her in the inflections in their voice. 

I composed myself as much as I could, slipped on my sunglasses and left the store lest I become a sobbing mess in public. As I pulled out of the lot, several butterflies fluttered by and my heart was suddenly at peace. Yes, I am still sad. I don't expect that will ever go away. Yes, we still mourn but I know she's watching over us. Laughing and rollin her eyes at our shenanigans. Smiling and sending love to the babies.

She lives on through all of us. Our photos, memories and stories. She will always be here in our hearts even if she is no longer here with us.

Friday, September 8, 2017

Turn Down For What: How To Sleepover Like A MOM

Listen - mom life is hectic do you hear me? HEC-TIC. Trying to get together with friends is almost impossible thanks to youth sports and traffic. Real talk. Ask any mom where she spends the majority of her time and she'll tell you: picking up and dropping off kids.
And while getting gussied up for a girls night out on the town can be a fabulous time and a great way to cut loose, sometimes you just want to kickback sans bra and be comfortable. You know, Netflix and chill, but with your girlfriends!

What do we (moms) want? Sleep!

When do we want it? Always!

So why not combine both girl time and sleeping? I know when I get to hang with my squad during conferences it feels like a three day sleepover. Late night eats, drinks and laughs. Talking things out or catching up on our favorite shows, it's always a good time. 
I'm a huge fan of  the concept of adult sleepovers and think it's high time the mama's got into the mix. They're not just for millennials y'all! The tricky part is getting the timing right but at the end of the day, you can't please everyone with the schedule and those who can make it will never forget it. 

However, you will need some key ingredients to get the party started and luckily, I've done the dirty of work of figuring out what you need. You're welcome. 

image via Joymode 

  • Place to kick it: I recently discovered Joymode and they have this siick glamping set up that would be the perfect place to have a sleepover and outdoor movie night. If you get too cold you can always move the party indoors.  
  • Food: Keep things simple with pizza for all. Take a poll on toppings and order in to save time. 
  • Popcorn + Candies: Listen, you don't have kids to share with so now is the time to splurge. Get crazy, mix your mini Twix AND Skittles in with the corn. 
  • Libations - Canned wine is ALWAYS a good idea. And makes for easy cleanup too! 

  • PJ's: A fun excuse to scoop up an actual pajama set. You know the kind where the top and bottom match? 
  • Killer Playlist: Because after copious cans of wine, a dance party is inevitable.
  • Instax or photo strip printer to document it all in a safe place. Not EVERYTHING needs to be done for the 'gram.
  • Donuts +Coffee: For the morning after. Because no one is trying to cook breakfast or put on a bra. Bonus points if you use a delivery system like PostMates.

-      Are you down to have an adult sleepover with your girlfriends?

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Mom Life: Back To School Donuts + Rosé

At this point in my mom career / tenure the going back to school routine is somewhat old hat. I'm not super emotional about it, more like "take my child please". But in many ways this year is a bit different in that both kids will be attending "real school" and are now officially on the same calendar schedule. 
This works out well for days off and holidays. But as with all things it's kind of bittersweet. The mom struggle is that you're torn about summer break. You both love and hate it. Love the relaxed schedule, lack of homework late nights and ability to do what we want when we want. However, being a work at home mom during the summer can be a bit......stressful at times. 
For me, there is a lot of putting my work on the back burner and finding ways to keep the kids out of their rooms, off their devices and out of each others hair. Chauffeuring children to and from lessons, play dates. Going on adventures. 
It's a full-time job yo.

Summer break also means a lot less time with my mama friends. With everyone in and out of town it can be hard to plan get-togethers and your usual mom squad can go weeks without contact. Which can throw off your balance and make any mama feel a little isolated. Thus making going back to school a bit of a celebration. And what is a celebration without libations? A sad meeting that's what. 
Y'all know I am all rosé all day over here so it stands to reason that back to school should be celebrated with donuts + rosé !

What you need:

Your Favorite R
osé: for a gathering of the girls I like to either chill a bottle of Sofia Coppola and Whispering Angel or break out the cans for easy portability!

Donuts: All shapes sizes and flavors. Eff your Whole 30 it's mama time. 

ALL.The.Coffee: Because you'll need to sober up before getting the kids! (just kidding - this is in no way advocating drinking and driving) 

Your Mom Tribe: Call your mom squad and pick a date so you can all celebrate the return to normalcy, say peace out to summer and hash out your concerns over the upcoming year.

Super simple and you'll still have time to run a quick errand before picking up the kids! 

How do you celebrate / commiserate the return to school and say good-bye to summer? 


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