Love & Marriage // Focusing on Each Other

When I first met my husband it was the fall of 1998. The summer glow was fading from my skin as well as the highlights from my hair. By the time I really got to know him my hair had grown dark and I was rockin' blue eye shadow like it was going out of style since my skin had lost its luster (it was cold in Atlanta!). I remember telling him " I look much better in the summer". We weren't even dating at the time.

Fast forward a few years and we just celebrated our third wedding anniversary. Two kids and fifteen years later, I am even more in love with him now than I was back then. It hasn't been an easy fifteen years of courtship let alone three of marriage. In fact, I'll be the first to admit this last year tested us and shown us who we are as individuals and as a couple. Having Baby Ninja knocked us on our ass, pure and simple. He is so different than Sweet Pea and it's taken us a minute to get our groove but it's also given us yet another way bond and we are all enamored with him. Now our family truly is complete.

I know 3 years seems so paltry to my friends who are celebrating a decade or more but for us it's a big thing. We walked away and chose to come back. That means something. I look back on our life and think about how it could have been so different and I thank God everyday that I went left instead of right. Not to say that we have a perfect marriage or relationship for that matter. We work on it, but because we are committed to each other and to our marriage we have a few books on the reading list to help reaffirm that commitment. I want to have a kick ass marriage now and ten years from now. I never want to be in a place where we feel we can't talk to one another or that the other is not being supportive. So we consciously choose to celebrate our marriage/love and to make us a priority by scheduling dates and other fun activities that nourish us as a couple and as parents. The end result is far greater than the minimal effort it's taken to make some changes and continue to be open to doing so as we grow in our relationship and marriage.

To celebrate year three and head into year four with a bang I got all dolled up and we headed to our dinner date at Orange Hill. Breathtaking vistas with good company and delicious food? Couldn't have asked for a better night. We started with warm focaccia bread sprinkled with goat cheese, caramelized onions, arugula and drizzled with balsamic vinegar. I topped that off with a Hibiscus martini and we indulged in some fabulous chili dusted shrimp skewers with a citrus marmalade.

We chose the Chateaubriand for two which was finished off table-side and added a fun element to our evening. We laughed and talked as the light began to fade and the sun turned the sky intense shades of pink & orange. We made plans and chuckled over past. With our plates emptied and bellies full we sat in silence for a bit contemplating our life while watching the colors dance along the horizon.

We listened to the new Jay-Z album the whole way home to prep for the concert that weekend and  as we pulled up to the house I said a quick prayer of thanks. Things are not always perfect. But we love each other fiercely and that is enough.
I've said it before, life is nothing if not a grand adventure and I am happy to be doing life with him.

Love you Babe ! 

Cheers to 3 years!


  1. You know I had to come looking for the story! haha. Beautiful. Happy Anniversary to you two! I am looking forward to connecting with you and sharing our stories in the future! Hugs.

  2. Congratulations and happy anniversary! Looks like hubby and I have a new date spot! :)


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