Thursday, September 29, 2011

week 19: whats working for me....What I Wore @ Blog Sugar

This week has been busy and I  haven't been all that 'stylish' as I desperately need to do laundry.
Oh well.
So here's a photo from Blog Sugar on Sunday.
I had to put together something stylish & comfortable as I knew it was going to be a long day/night.
And this is what I came up with!

I look awkward because I was talking halfway through it (surprise, surprise) and the sun was in my eyes.
But pay no attention to my facial expression - it's the outfit that matters
Jeans : gap- "skinny" maternity
Shoes: payless
Tank: Mossimo for Target
Cardi: Forever 21
Linking up with Lindsey for WIWW!!
(I actually met her at Blog Sugar and she's doll I tell you!!)

What did you wear that felt good this week?

Drumroll please.....

Well y'all yesterday was the big day.
Woke up full of excitement and wonder.
Kind of felt like Christmas but w/ out worrying about cleaning up a mess later.....
We had several doctor's appointments and were pleased to find out that Baby Ninja is growing nicely, everything is where it's supposed to be and the size it should be.
We got some EXCELLENT pictures and the lab tech was wonderful about showing us in detail all that was going on with our wee one.
And can I just say - am I the only one who finds ultrasound pictures slightly disturbing?
The fact that you can see a PERSON inside you and their whole skeleton......yeah it creeps me out a bit.
It's joyous.
But it's still creepy when you look up and skeletor is looking back at you.
But my thoughts on anatomy is not why you're reading this.
you want to know right?
Well we got a lovely surprise to discover we're having......

A BOY!!!!
Holy moly!!!
Babe was shocked (he was convinced he was bound to spend the rest of his life outnumbered)  but I wasn't , I kind of knew and it was really awesome to see his reaction.
His first question to me was " So what colors do you want to do for the nursery?"
Ahhh he speaks my love language.
So now we have to figure out a name for this child.....

Wish us luck!

Anything exciting happen to you yesterday?

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

For Real

I'm kind of dragging today but the sun is out this morning so that puts a positive spin on things.
I have no idea how I made it through yesterday save for the grace of  God and being sustained by several chocolate chip cookies via my friend & co-worker.
I can't lie and say this pregnancy has been a breeze because it hasn't but that's another post.
I am still reeling from this event and all the beautiful people I met and messages I received.
I have so much on my mind, I will probably be talking about this for days and weeks to come.
I have struggled with the nature/ purpose of this blog for awhile and I'm always grasping for an answer whenever anyone asks "so what is your blog about? what is it's purpose?"
" Everything" seems so vague.
In the beginning it was about sharing Sweet Pea's antics.
That lasted about a month.
Then it became about getting people to follow me - to be excited about my posts the way I was excited about others.
At some point I realized that too was futile and if I didn't already, it was for sure hammered home on Sunday.
The main and resounding message that seems to be penetrating the  "sugar high" on the blogs of those that were there is:
This blog is not about ME.
It's bigger than me.
It's about my voice, my message and my ability to share the blessings I've received and the grace I've been given.
It's become quite apparent to me in recent months.
But admittedly I was struggling.
For awhile I would obsess over WHY I didn't have a ton of followers, I think I'm funny, my content covers a range of topics and I know so many people so why don't I have the "public" I deserve?
And I would look at the writers of blogs I adore and feel inadequate.
I don't do enough projects with my kid, I don't cook from scratch or meal plan like I should, I'm not the best decorator and my house isn't "oh so cute and stylish".
Simply put,I had blog envy.
I would compare my writing to theirs or try to adjust my style to mimic theirs and realized somewhere along the way: that simply wasn't ME.
Not in the slightest.
And no matter how hard I tried, it never would be.
And that's okay.
Because as my bio states - this is MY story, MY way told in the only voice I have.
It's not perfect. It's not always fun but it's REAL.
And that I dig.
And I hope you will due time.
So here's a bit of the lowdown on ME:
I'm not very serious.
I am strong in my faith but not much of an evangelist.
I try to make the best of all situations but I have my moments of negativity
I am a happy lady 95% of the time.
I laugh too loudly and tell inappropriate jokes.
I love to read and write (duh) 
I am sarcastic
I put my foot in my mouth more often than not
I'm short but feel tall (perhaps its those 4.5" heels I like to wear)
I am OBSESSED with cosmetics of all kinds, creams, shadows, blushes and lip glosses.
I love to make people over (and I mean in the makeup sense of the word not to really "fix" them - so not my job)
I am chatty and tend to be long winded (see exhibit A above)
I love purple and things that sparkle
I believe in happy endings and wish upon stars
I love my family with all my heart
My friends are the BOMB
I'm a little bit crazy and I'm totally okay with that.
So that's me in a nutshell - we can dig deeper next week and hopefully you stick around for the "really fun stuff"!

Who are YOU really?

Monday, September 26, 2011

Sugar Rush

It's early and I'm pretty exhausted and have a bit of a sugar hangover but I had to get this out of my head before I lose any of the glow.......
Yesterday afternoon I had the absolute pleasure of dining at one of my favorite spots with one of my absolute FAVORITE people.
After a lovely lunch we headed over to Blog Sugar to meet up with all the ladies I've heard so much about, some whose blogs I read religiously and others I'd never heard of or met until yesterday.
It was amazing.
There was a buzz in the air and all the women were beyond excited.
There was a lot of whispering to one's friend "that's so and so from _________. I LOVE her!"
And it was so refreshing to be in a room full of women who write their hearts as I do.
Whether they craft or just write or simply post pictures I feel like everyone got something out of it.
I know I did.
And let's not even discuss the amount of sweets I had - SO good. 
Thanks to April of the Modern Gourmet I'm now a fan of whoopie pies - particularly her strawberry whoopie pies
I was nervous about going at first, I have to admit.
Excited, but still kind of nervous.
I knew I was most likely going to be the only African-American woman there, and I also knew that while I would know a handful of people there were others I would not know at all.
And that was a bit daunting to me.
I make friends pretty easily but sharing my heart with stranger comes a lot tougher and I really wanted to be open to the experience and to meeting all these women and not being intimidated by them.
It helped to have Amber there as a "wing-man" so to speak so I had someone to consistently touch bases with after each session and at the end of the night.
I'll write more about what I got out of it but I have to get this out while it's still fresh in my mind.
I let myself be really open to all that was going to happen and basically just gave it all up to God as to how I felt.
And there were some moments of discomfort simply because I was surrounded by so much awesome - but then I was reminded and encouraged that I was pretty awesome too.
And that helped a bunch.
It was also great to meet HER in person.
Oddly we have several mutual "real-life" friends and I've kind of been stalking her blog for almost a year and I think she's pretty rad.
She's taller than I thought but still just as stylish and awesome as she comes across.
So to turn around from talking with a friend and see her smile at me, wave and come over with open arms just made my day.
I also had a mini- high school reunion as the organizer of Blog Sugar - Rachel is a friend of mine from high school, the "ambassador's of goodwill" were all friends from BCHS as was most of the check -in crew.
The "bouncers" read strapping men who helped move/load things and open doors were all former BCHSers and husbands/brothers of attendees.
It was nice to catch up with everyone and share my joy and a few hours chatting.
I'm pretty sure I loved every minute of it.
I have a lot to think about over the coming days and weeks but I am excited, and refreshed and fired up about where this blog and my life are going.
Thanks for being along for the ride.

What did you do interesting this weekend?

Friday, September 23, 2011

the poll

Now that we've announced the pregnancy, told you how far along I am (18 weeks) 
It's time to start the FUN!!
Who wants to take a guess at what's growing inside my tummy????
( is it weird that I kind of felt weird typing that?)
  • Here are a few fun facts to aide in your guessing:
  • I experienced morning sickness but not to the level it was with Sweet Pea (thank God) and still get queasy occasionally
  • Smells bother me
  • I crave certain foods both salty & sweet.....mostly sweet
  • I have a wicked sweet tooth (think Caramel Corn at 9am.....sometimes earlier)
  • The heart rate was 165 
  • I've had sporadic headaches
The ultrasound showed a HUGE head but at 14 weeks I think all heads are huge!
My sisters in love and the majority of the family are convinced its a boy
All the "gender predictors" I've done say it's a girl......

what do YOU think????

Check back Wednesday the 28th as that's the next scheduled ultrasound......hopefully Baby Ninja will show themselves!!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Bump Style: what's working for me - week 18

One of my co-workers (and a super stylish mom herself) and I were discussing the challenges of dressing a growing baby bump in this day and age.
Well first it started w/ a discussion on the newest shoes Sole Society was launching in October and then we moved on to clothing as she kept proclaiming how "tiny" my bump was.
I on,on the other, hand feel a bit larger than "tiny" but I appreciated the sentiment none-the-less......but I'm getting off topic (as usual)
There are a TON more options than when I was pregnant with Sweet Pea but who wants to break the bank on purchasing a whole new wardrobe for yourself when you will have a little one to dress, a nursery to decorate and bottles to buy?
Not me for sure.
So she gave me the bright idea to sort of do a "what's working for me" series of posts to document.....well, what's working for me style wise.
No one wants to look frumpy while carrying the bump and I am not one to sacrifice style for a few months or however long it takes to get back into my pre-bump clothes (specifically my favorite jeans).
So, with that in mind I've made sort of a list (cuz I like lists) of things that I will for sure purchase to enchance my preggo style and things that I will "make it work" that I already own.

To Buy:
  • Jeans- an absolute must; I confess I am that woman who loves her jeans and owns about 20 pairs. these are a necessity.While I'm normally a "designer jeans" girl (think Paige, Citizens & James) I can't really afford or justify spending $100+ on limited wear jeans. So I won't. I recently purchased 2 pairs of "skinny" maternity jeans(ha!) from GAP and am quite pleased with how they look and for the price; I am doubly excited. I see about 2 more pair in my future.
  • Tops - while I am the t-shirt/wife beater queen I don't want to stretch out my favorite tops to "make them work" so I think it will be in my best interest to purchase a few tanks & tees to get me through.
  • Bra's - let's face it; this is a given - my boobs are growing at a rapid rate (hallelujah!) but my current selection of underthings is not accommodating them. So I need to up the ante so to speak - and I would like some pretty bra's at that. No ugly plain maternity/nursing bras here!
  • Flats- I'm not a big flats wearer. I love them on other people but since I'm 5'4" I tend to gravitate towards shoes with a heel. However, I know that during the latter months and post baby the need for height will not really be a daily requirement. Fortunately for me Sole Society has some super cute flats available that I can wear year round and won't break my bank!
Already own:
(and can wear during and after "the Invasion")
  • I just got two pairs of KILLER boots from Hautelook's Steven by Steve Madden blowout to add to the winterwardrobe.
  • My A-MAZING new Kenneth Cole wool peacoat arrived yesterday - it's a lovely berry shade and will last for many seasons. SO excited about this
  • Sweaters - I have a couple of my favorite sweaters that are already oversized just enough to allow me to get away with wearing them through this fall
  • Leggings - I own a few but will definitely be adding a few more as this is a fall/winter staple for me
  • Tunics - comfy, casual & chic - these will go well with leggings and boots and keep me & the "occupant" warm
And I think that's it really - I don't require a lot and plan to "make it work" with most everything else I have in my closet.
I'll post photos this weekend of my newly accquired items this weekend so you can see how I'm "making it work"!!

Monday, September 19, 2011


Let's talk Baby Bumps shall we?
so here we are at  just about 18 weeks
settling into the pregnancy if you will
and  the main question I get is : Do you know what you're having?
Do you want to find out?
Unfortunately it was too early at our last ultrasound appointment and our technician wasn't even willing to hazard a guess.
And OF COURSE we want to know!
That's a must do on my "pregnancy checklist".
I get how and why a person would want to be "surprised" but that's not my idea of a great surprise.
I need. to. know.
I can't plan a nursery, or even begin to come up with names until I have some firm confirmation.
So we wait.
And guess.
Matter of fact - in about a week I will be launching a poll on here and FB and you can cast your vote on what you think we will have.
The majority of the family thinks one thing and I oddly don't have a feeling one way or another.
well a small feeling but it vacillates so I can't confirm.
However I have done a number of the "predictors" and all indicate the same thing.
Oddly I don't really mind either way.
I wouldn't mind another girl since I already have one and kind of know what to expect.
But I wouldn't mind a boy either to carry on the Dorsey name.
I really just want a healthy baby either way.
That's all I can ask for anyway.
On another note - I've been thinking on the best way to "document" this pregnancy.
Not really excited about doing an obligatory weekly update w/ the belly photo (cuz really it doesn't change that much from week to week in the begining)
Nor do I think the world (or the few that read this) want to see my burgeoning belly and hear about fetal heart rate.
So how does one come up w/ a cute and creative way to document their "occupancy"?
Pinterest of course!
I was looking at something on there the other day
(have you joined? if not you need to get on that. it's beyond amazing. seriously. do it.)
anywho - I was perusing someone's "baby" board or something to that effect and came across only the coolest and cutest idea ever!
A maternity photo book!
found HERE
It's basically a book that documents thoughts from mom to baby throughout each week!
The highs and the lows - which to me is GREAT.
And is a wonderful creative diversion from the standard "bump watch" emails and blogs we've all seen.
I'm doubly excited because I didnt do anything like this with Sweet Pea.
Sure I had a baby book that I hardly wrote in, and there are the random journal entries but nothing that really documents what was going on both inside and out!
So I'm pretty excited to attempt to re-create this.
And hopefully this will inspire Babe to get our camera fixed (again) so we can have better photos!!!
I also want to be totally honest with all the women out there.
Yes growing a person is an amazing thing but it takes a lot out of you and let's be honest - it's not all sunshine and roses.
So - check back for updates and see what's going on with my 'tenant' and hopefully you will be entertained!

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Featured Writer

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Sunday, September 11, 2011


Pregnancy hormones are out of control today.
It's such a beautiful day out.
Football is back on and Babe is yelling at the TV like it's his job, Sweet Pea is playing in her room & laughing at her TV.
That is so refreshing.
And I'm sitting here at the computer, looking at the assortment of postings on FB, Yahoo news and the like.
It's amazing to me see how my generation has been affected.
Similarly to that of my fathers when JFK and MLK died.
They knew where they were, what they were doing & wearing when the world went silent.
As do we.
10 years it has been since all of our lives were changed.
It seems like so long ago but feels like yesterday whenever I see any footage.
I'm making it a point to not watch anything about it today.
I can't.
It still hurts.
And we actually watched a bit last weekend and spent the week trying to calm down a 9 year-old.
No thank you.
Sweet Pea is 9.
She was just a little thing floating in my tummy when all this happened 10 years ago.
I will never forget what I was doing, wearing or feeling at that moment.
And here I am, a whole decade later, pregnant again and wondering where this world is heading.
But I look back and am proud.
Not of everything that has occurred, but proud of our people.
How we rallied and recovered.
How we have moved on but never forgotten.
How we have grown and gone forward.
It makes my heart swell.
So today, I say a prayer for all those families who lost someone, who's lives will never be the same.
I say a prayer for those who didn't and are still affected by this date in time.
And I say 'thank you' to all that raise their heads high and show their pride and their love.
Always looking forward, not dwelling in the past and 'what could've been'.
Today, lets rejoice in the family we have, the lives we live and the love in our hearts.

Thursday, September 8, 2011


This post has been weighing on my heart and my mind since Monday and it's been hard for me to gather my words for it.
How do you write a good-bye to a friend who is gone too soon?
On Monday morning I received a phone call from a dear friend who's first words to me were
"Have you checked Facebook today?"
I told her I had just gotten up so no.
She then blew my mind with the following phrase:
"Chris died!?"
It was not quite a statement or a question.
More of an expression of shock.
I was dumbfounded.
Chris? OUR Chris?
My husband had just spoken to him a few weeks prior.
I had seen his postings on FB not but a week before.
Our other friends had spoken to him recently as well.
Hell, I invited him to the BBQ we had this past Sunday!
How did this happen?
I first met Chris in the fall of 2007 when Babe and I first got back together.
He was a friend of my -not-yet-husband's and I liked him right away.
Funny as all get out.
Originally from St. Louis he spoke with a bit of a twang and had a wonderfully warped sense of humor.
He was good people.
I nicknamed him "Big Country" and he called me "Lil' Country" - it was longtime running joke that I don't even remember how it started.
He spent many an afternoon/evening at our house enjoying the antics on American Idol and trying to guess who would win America's Next Top Model.
In fact - it was a regular thing for him to come over for dinner on Wednesdays.
We looked forward to it as a family.
Oddly he always referred to me as Babes "wife" even before we were engaged.
And he would make it a point to stop by if he knew I had baked, even if it was just to run in and grab a piece of cake and run back out.
A few months after our initial meeting we ended up going to Las Vegas to celebrate his and another friends birthdays.
We had. a. BALL.
So much fun and so many memories and jokes packed into two days time.
I will never forget it.
Chris was to us what he was to everybody it seems, from reading the messages on his FB page, a great guy to be around, full of life and laughter.
He had a joke for every occasion and dance step for every song.

He was our friend.
We hadn't spoken to him in awhile but that didn't change how we felt about him.
The look on Babe's face when I broke the news will forever haunt me.
He lost a good friend.

Although physically he is gone from this world I know his spirit will watch over us all.
And whenever we see his commercials or photos we will be reminded of his infectious smile, contagious laughter and general humor.
My heart and prayers go out to his family - wife, kids, parents and siblings.

To the man I called "Big Country"

You are a dear friend and will always and forever live in our hearts.
We will tell stories about you and your humor for years to come.
I can only pray that your family knows how much you meant to those outside of it.
Though you were not "blood" you were a member of our family and we loved you like a brother.
I wish we had spent more time, called more and just "been there" in general but I know that you knew how we felt.
God knew what he was doing  when he placed in you our lives at the most opportune time.
We thank you for your laughter, your support, your friendship and your love.
We love you and will miss you.

Monday, September 5, 2011

It's about time

So we had "the shindig" for two reason's
One: we really wanted to see all of our friends and family and I love any excuse to throw a party.
My husband not so much - he's not real excited about the post party clean-up but I love it all.


We're having a BABY!!!
After 9 years of just Sweet Pea we will be welcoming a new member to our 3 person party.
We have no idea (yet) what the gender is and haven't even begun to pick out names but we are super excited!
Yesterday's BBQ was a great way to share the news with our friends and celebrate this new addition!
Stay tuned to see what's next!

So Long Summer...

I can't believe it's really September and Labor Day is already here!
Where has this summer/year gone!??
We have spent many a day laughing and enjoying the slower pace but it's time to "get back in gear" as school for Sweet Pea has already begun and Babe and I are gearing up for the fall/holiday season.
I'm so not ready.
A few weeks ago we I decided it would be a GREAT idea to host a rocking BBQ one last time to say goodbye to summer and spend a lovely day with all of our favorite peeps!
And it was a smashing success (if I do say so myself).
I invited over 50 people and had 39 rsvp's.
Babe was a little concerned as to how everyone would fit but I assured him  it 'would all work out' somehow.
Not to mention I was super excited to test out my recipe for Root Beer Float cupcakes and they were GREAT!
I was super pleased with how they turned out.
Thankfully I have a FAB friend who hosts shindigs often and had a few tables and some extra chairs that she was willing to lend me.
I also have another fabulous friend who was super helpful in seeing my whole "vision" come together and she, her hubby and their ADORABLE little boy came over early to help set up.
Of course I hadn't even showered by the time they came over but they were totally unfazed and by the time I had gotten out of the shower and come back downstairs they had set up the lanterns, tables & table cloths and arranged the patio furniture 'just so'.
They are amazing!
Thanks Amber & Eric for all of your help - we couldn't have had a successful party without you.
Before I knew it guests were arriving and the number steadily grew from  6 to 10, t0 15, to 20 and then I lost count.
Kids were everywhere, food was coming in left and right and laughter could be heard from down the block.
A great night indeed.
I actually didn't take as many pictures as usual because I was playing super hostess and really enjoying just hanging out with our friends but the ones that I did......classic.

Needless to say we won't be hosting that many people for quite some time but it was totally worth it.
Friends from near and far, both old and new, family and kids too......good times all around.
my lovely "umbrella" wreath

what's a party w/ out paper lanterns!

s'mores parting gifts!
my sisters-in-love & my mother-in-love

The Winters & the Radthke's

the A-MAZING Van Duyn's

Austin sisters aka - "the beans lady & the chicken lady"

Ebony, Nico & his sister + Jordan

the Alexander girls

A few of the kids

my boyfriend Quentin & his dad Charles

the only decent shot we got all night - Teon, LaShaunda, Me & Rose - love these ladies!
And the moment of the day!

Baby "D" coming February 2012!!!


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