Thursday, November 18, 2010

week 3 ....Thankful on Paper

This is week 3 of Thankful on Paper 
(or T.O.P's to those 'in the know')
and this week is one very special person.
My husband.

I could go on for hours about this man.
He has been so much a part of my life for so long that it's hard for me to remember what life was like without him.

Obviously I'm madly in love with him. But it's more than that.
He is MORE than I could have imagined for my life.
He is my best friend.
My 'person' in time of need, joy, sadness and sorrow.
The love of my life.
An amazing father to our daughter.
He is fantastic brother.
A wonderful son.
A great friend.
MY Husband - forever and ever. 
Even when the day by day ruler of life gets to be long....
forever mine, forever thine, forever ours.....
an example of our 'deep and profound' love
Me: "G'night. Love you Babe"
Him: " I love you too!............(long pause).......Like a wino loves whiskey!"
Me: "Thaaaanks. Bwahahahahaha!"

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

What I wore Wednesday........'s Wednesday and you all  know the routine right?
I link up with Lindsey  over at
and post what I've been wearing.
And be a nosy posey and see what OTHER people are wearing too!
It's how I get ideas dontcha know?
Could be today, yesterday - heck it could be last week for all you know!
and in this case it was!
I so inspired by the images I kept seeing on Kendi Everyday and by the 30 for 30 challenge AND I really liked my outfit remix last week - I tried to "keep up the cute" for the rest of the week!
And I think I might have even been somewhat successful! 
I had a co-worker tell me that my outfits were cute and that it seemed like I was 'on a roll' and I couldn't help but thank her and agree!
There might be some stylish hope for me yet!!
So without further adieu -
What I've worn
( insert drumroll here)

I've seen shorts and tights quite a bit and never had the gall to try it but this day I threw caution to the wind. 
 I was pleased with how it turned out.
Being a Makeup Artist , this t-shirt really spoke to me and I had to have it!
i had Sweet Pea take this on

"Makeup  Your Mind" t-shirt: H&M
Shorts: H&M
Tights: Target or Payless
Boots: Steve Madden -Nordstrom Rack
Necklace & Earrings: H&M


I was feeling kind of 'casually stylish yet comfortable' - not sure if I pulled it off or not

yes that's the same necklace from Wednesday. don't judge

Cardigan: Forever 21
T-shirt & tank: Mossimo for Target
Necklace: H&M
Leggings: Mossimo for Target
Boots: Mossimo for Target
(does anyone see a trend here????)

Had a 'casual' after work "date" with Babe so I wanted to still be cute and comfortable for whatever was in sote
( "date" is in quotes because going to Buffalo Wild Wings and watching 5meeelion different games at once does not a "date" make. We did have fun though.)

I tried to get a detail of the necklace and failed epically. whoops. 

Top: H&M
Jeans: Paige Denim
Boots: Seychelles
Earrings: Target
Necklace: H&M

last week I cuffed my straight leg jeans and wanted to see how it looked with some skinnies and booties.
Not too shabby for a Monday.

Top w/ built in necklace: Forever 21
Jeans: James Jeans
Shoes: Payless

I found this necklace in my jewlery drawer the night before and couldnt wait to wear so I basically created an outfit around it.

 Jeans: Paige Denim
Boots: Steve Madden at Nordstrom Rack
Jacket: H&M
Tank: Mossimo for Target
Necklace: Forever 21
Earrings: H&M
I'm actually learning quite a bit about my style and my closet with this whole documentation thing.
It's not only helpful in forgoing the dreaded 'repeat outfit' (eek!) as I can see what I've worn each week but it narrows down what I actually wear and what kind of style I really I have.
If any at all.
Clearly I wear a LOT of black,white & denim.
Leggings and boots are my best friends.
And Target , H&M , Forever 21 and Nordstrom Rack are my favorite stores.
But there is still so much more to explore!
Platform stilletos, colored tights and sequins!
(not all at once)
Stay Tuned!!!

On another note: 
 I have SERIOUSLY been neglecting my mirrors!!
Do you see those streaks! Oy!

Happy Hump Day!!!
Check back next week for more outfits!!!

I gave in...

have been lamenting about the state of my closet and draws for a few weeks now.
I've been really wanting to clean  them out and re-organize but haven't really had the time or the energy to undertake such a magnificent task.
(Yes I am that weird chick who actually enjoys re-organizing her things - go figure.)
Because I have a mild case of OCD and since I LOVE an organized closet I wanted to really take my time with it and really make it make sense to ME and for how I get dressed.
Yes - I color code my closet and draws and separate my shoes by styles/seasons.
I have issues. I am aware. It's ok.
Annnnnd .........then I bought some shoes.
Well a couple pair to be exact......
and knew that I needed to make some room for them and just re-do how the boxes were all stacked anyway. 
I don't have the closet space to have them "displayed" the way I would I work with what I got!!

This was the state in which my husband found me - surrounded by shoe boxes....

the give-away pile......someone with a size 8 foot is going to be VERY happy

The new Hauteness

Up close and personal.....

Are they not just to die for???

So you can see why I got up super EARLY on a Saturday to scoop them up!!!
Obviously this would have been better if I had done 'before' and 'after' photos but I didn't.
So this is what you get. Enjoy it.

Do you have a favorite area to organize???

Something to Think About.....

*****I got this sent to me via e-mail yesterday from my sister-in-love Ganell and it was so on point and fell in line with a conversation that was had last week amongst some of my friends that I had to share with everyone.  Just some food for thought for all the Colored Girls out there......******

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited. 
 I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie. 
 I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would  lead to healing and growth, I guess I kind of imagined a Womens Empowerment Conference type of setting.

Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I  realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity  etc... 
It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics.  
We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others faults and nit pick at a sister until she has nothing left, nothing left to give and then we step over her and call her worthless.  
We take the prettiest women and tear them down for thinking "they are cute" but turn around and dog the average sista because "she know she should take better care of herself than that - can't believe she got a man!" 
We call strong women female dogs and accuse weaker women of riding somebody else's coat tails. 
We tell a big sista to put down her burger and turn around and criticize a skinny woman for not picking one up. 
We ride the loud mouth woman for "talking to darn much" and likewise torment the quiet woman for "Being too quiet and needing to take up for herself" 
 Sad part is we don't discriminate, we talk about everybody!!!
I've watched women dog out everybody from Oprah for catering to white people and Halle Berry for not being able to keep a man to young Willow Smith for acting to darn grown in her recent video. 
All of these females are successful and there is something about each one of them to be proud of but a lot of us can't seem to see that.  
I have to wonder since we all share a common thread (whether we want to admit it or not) is there something about ourselves that we don't like, what has happened to us that we cannot seem to get along. 
Why is that we fight amongst ourselves, backstab & steal each others men(only to find out we should have left him where we found him).
We cannot seem to be unified to support and stick up for one another.
Everybody seems to be out for themselves while other groups unite against us but nobody else has to bring us down because we trample on the spirits of each other daily. 
Even if you live in a mini mansion, drive a luxury car, have good credit, rich handsome husband etc, this does not mean that should look down your nose at the woman with 4 kids, no husband, living in income based housing struggling to keep her lights on.
We ALWAYS think the grass is greener on the other side, I had a woman who's child father is MIA tell me that I should never complain because I receive a decent amount of child support and I laughed and let her know that I would gladly give every dime back if he would come relieve some of this overwhelming pressure of feeling inadequate as a parent.  If I could get just one full night of sleep or not always be on the verge of losing my job because I’m the one that has to call off or leave work for one reason or another to accommodate my child - yeah he could DEFINITELY have his money if I could have some peace!  
Money alone doesn't make you happy (not true happiness), good credit doesn't keep you satisfied, beauty doesn't make you any less insecure, fame doesn't make you less vulnerable or cause you to be a good judge of character and being stuck up and mean doesn't keep you warm at night or prevent you from being lonely.
You don't know how the sista sitting right next to could have carefully put on her make up this morning to hide the beating from last night.
The teacher you handed your child over to this morning could have sent her children off to school from a dark house with empty bellies.  
The teller you just got rude with at the bank could know that today is her last day on her job and have no idea how she is going to survive past next weekend. 
 The sista at the office that appears so busy could be typing her goodbyes to all the people that she loves because she plans to blow her brains out tonight after she tucks her babies  into bed. 
The woman you pass in the hallway could be on her way to have an abortion because she fears what others might think or how the woman that sent you this e-mail may drink an over abundance of alcohol every night to mask the nightmares of an abusive childhood.

Ladies we HAVE TO DO BETTER!!! 
I'm not suggesting that we all like each other and be phony, But I am asking that we all try to respect each other. 
You HAVE NO IDEA what the next woman is going through, you don't know what past or current hurt and pains have shaped her into who she is today.  
We spend so much time trying to be as strong and hard as we are expected to be that we end up cracking from the inside out piece by piece. 
If we would spend 1/3 of the time we spend tearing each other down to build someone up, encourage someone, show someone some love, we could truly make a difference and save someone's life.  PLEASE don't be the straw that breaks another woman's back. 
Believe me when I tell you that there is a woman out there that needs your smile, your hug, your support, your prayer. 
I hope that you read this and get something out of it other than a laugh and that you pass this on to as many women as you can to let someone know that you believe they are somebody special and that if need be you are available to listen. 
Nothing bad is going to happen if you don't forward this e-mail but I'd like to think that something positive will happen if you choose to pass it along.  
May favor be extended to each and everyone of your lives, keep your head up and know that someone somewhere cares!!!   Know that I appreciate you all and love you.  
Let's share this with the ladies (young and seasoned) in our lives and love each other as GOD's precious creation.  
Have a happy and safe holiday!

Friday, November 12, 2010

crafty christmas???

so I've mentioned before how I'm not all super crafty?
In my mind I can create these neat little bows and headbands and trinkets no problem.
but in reality.....I'm kind of afraid!
I mean I just bought my own glue gun a few months ago for Pete's sake
I did manage to finagle my hair fascinator (remember that fun?) for the wedding and that inspired me to dig deeper.
So I was perusing the Michael's circular the other day and saw all the ribbon and things that are on sale and that got my wheels turning even more!
Even though we're not saving for a wedding this Christmas I still want to keep our gifts low-key and on a tight budget so we're able to do more fun things later on in the year.
So I think I'm going to attempt to make some hair goodness.
Headbands, fascinators, flower pins and bows. 

Something like these 
 and this

and possibly these 

I got a lot of ribbon, glue, some glitter and a TON of feathers.
I'm pretty sure I can make something happen........right?
And hopefully by doing that - I will save some $$$$ and have added a new 'trick' to my creative repertoire.
So what should I make first?

READ ME!!!!!

Everyone run over to to check out my musings on Friendships & Relationships.
We all have "couple friends" but are we actually friends with those people as individuals outside of their relationship?
What happens when  we or they break up?
Who keeps the friends?????

Yours, Mine & on TheSmartly

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Thankful on Paper - the Sisters-in-loves

I'm loving Thankful on Paper - it was great to see so many ladies link up with Rachel and read all the wonderous reasons we have to be thankful.
This week I'm a little behind.
I haven't sent my letters because I don't have any stamps.......annnnd there is no post office in close proximity to my job so they will be mailed out first thing Saturday.
And since I'm not sure they really read the blog it's okay for me to name them!
For week 2:
I am thankful for my in-laws.
I have an AWESOME extended family.
Specifically my sisters-in-love.

Romi - sadly I have no pic w/ her since she lives in the ATL


and cousin Jodi!
These ladies are so amazing for so many reasons (which I will detail in their letters) but to sum it up - I have a wonderfully different relationship with each of them.
And I love that.
They are all so different but the common thread is they are 100% honest, fiercely loyal and love my Babe.
That was our common ground.
I say 'in-love" because I am madly in love with Babe their brother and cousin and I love them like they are my sisters I was raised with.
I don't have sisters so I'm intrigued by the dynamic of them and these women
 took me in and accepted me in-spite of all my flaws and failures. 
They loved me when it was me & him, then when it was just ME and supported the re-joining of us 3.
And they love my kid.
So today, I thank you ladies- for all the laughs, the love and the memories.
I am so blessed to have you all in my life and love you all so much. 
Thank you for being more than just my family because you 'have to' - thank you for being my friends because you choose to you.
I love you all.

Cuz we are sistas......and sistas stick together!!!

(insert song "Sistah" from The Color Purple here)

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

thank you mr. UPS man!

It came!!!!
When I arrived home this afternoon there was a lovely non-descript looking brown box on the porch.
And then I opened it to find this!

Our wedding album!!!

And DVD of photos

It looks so pretty!!!
The cover is a beautiful  shantung silk in an eggplant-y auberigine color......
and the inside is just divine.
Talk about your high quality printing!!
I tell ya that Melissa Brandman knows what she's doing!!


yesterday was a pretty rockin day for a tuesday.
Why you ask?
Well - I had French Fries for lunch and they were perfectly crispy & salted.
I was super productive at work
And Babe found his ring!!!
While we were both bummed out about the "loss" it was really bothering him.
And lo and behold yesterday morning it turned up!
Turns out it had been.....let's say "hiding" in the toe of a pair of shoes he rarely wears.
He thinks it "may have been in his pants pocket, fallen out and into the shoes and rolled into the toe".
That's the story he's sticking to.

I'm just glad he found it!
Now we have to take it to the jewelers and see about getting the inside dipped in gold to help with the irritation or replacing it all-together......

On the dish:

Where it belongs

I got an email as well as an FB wall post from my wedding photographer
- you know- the FABULOUS Melissa Brandman?
Well she let me know that our wedding album is complete and on the way to us!!
Just in time for the Holidays!!
Can't wait to see how it all turned out!

What I wore Wednesday

This is my outfit from TUESDAY 11/9/10 - wasn't sure if I was going to like my actual  Wednesday gear.....
forgive me

My wardrobe is pretty simple.
I don't really have a ton of time or energy in the morning to really to do it up so I work with what I got.
Since it was a blustery kind of day I threw on a few  "Fall" staples and headed off to work.
Top: Mossimo for Target
Tank: Mossimo for Target
Jeans: Joe's
Boots: Madden Girl - T.J. Maxx

and then remixed in the evening
(I added a necklace....)

Necklace: H&M

As always I'm linking up with the Pleated Poppy......

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

I've been following along with this super cool blog: Kendi Everyday I stumbled upon via Andrea at Four Flights of Fancy and it's totally making re-think how I get dressed and how I shop.
Kendi is hosting the 30x30 challenge  where you  take 30 items and remix only those items into 30, (hopefully) stylish outfits.

The rules:

1. Pick 30 items or less from your closet. Shoes are included, but accessories and jewelry are not.

2. Remix the 30 items into 30 different outfits.

That's it! Well not entirely so..

3. Don't shop for 30 days.
That last one is killer. I mean how many times have we all run to Forever 21, H&M or Target for a 'cute shirt to wear out' or a 'simple dress for tonight'?  I know I do it. And usually when I can't afford to.
So I dig the rules of this challenge.
I'm not quite ready to play along as I still need to go through my closet and purge quite a bit but I think that once I do I will happily take it on.
Just looking at the items that Andrea and Kendi have picked has inspired me to take better stock of my closet and to spin a few of my tried and true favorite ensembles.
The reason I think this struck a chord is that I have done a bit of shopping lately. More than I usually do.
I've purchased 3 pairs of shoes within the last month. Granted I do plan to get rid of some shoes but this is a splurge for me!
Last year was all about saving for the wedding and NOT shopping or spending money on 'extras' - having to 'make do' and it was HARD! A girl needs to switch things up every so often and that's hard to do on a limited budget with no wiggle room.
But I did it.
And now I am acting like money grows on trees.
I need to slow down for sure. And with the Holidays fast approaching it only makes sense I take on a challenge like this NOW when I'm being teased and tortured by all the pretty, sparkly things in my inbox, mailbox and on the web.......sigh.
But - I am determined to not shop for the next 30 days. That's the least I can do. 
When I'm ready to shop again I will really examine what it is I'm buying and WHY. 
With a paired down closet I think it will be much easier to get my 'style' together.
Then beginning December I will see if I'm ready for the challenge.
I'm excited.
Are you??

Could you take on the 30x30 challenge? Does the thought of that scare or excite you?

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Sweet Sundays

Today I am EVER so thankful for that elusive 'extra hour' that is gained when we "Fall Back".
Mainly because yesterday was the longest day in history.
I started the morning by getting up at the crack of dawn - for me on a Saturday anyway (7:45 a.m)
and purchasing some HAWT shoes from our website  and that totally started my day off right.
Then I was off to run my million errands before Ladies Night 2010 began.
Of course I had a hundred and one things to do and obviously not enough time to get them all done so some things got scrapped (sorry BBQ Bacon Jalapeno Poppers)
By the time the ladies showed up I am happy to say that not only was I dressed I was also fully made up!
The ladies arrived slowly but surely and it was great to see women from all the different areas of my life come together and really enjoy themselves!

I was so busy playing 'hostess with the mostesses' that I didn't take very many pictures but I did get a few of the fabulousness that was the table and the 'fun' straws to make our margaritas that much more exciting!Thank you so much to all my lovely ladies who made the trek out to my casita for the evening!
It was truly a blessing to share such a fun and mischievous night with you all!!

While I was having my "ladies party" my hubby was off with the guys for a night of shooting pool and drinks at a local lounge, being a good sport about being kicked out of his home for the evening.
Sweet Pea on the other hand was living the high life having spent the day with my dad (her Papa).
Of course they started off the afternoon with a trip to McDonald's (yuck!) , followed by a quick trip to the grocery store, then they went home to watch movies.
Now my Dad is a movie hound. If he passes by it in Costco chances are he'll pick it up.
Especially if it's something he thinks she will like.
This is always a blessing when we go by his house as she has 'stuff to do' and is not bored.
So Friday - I was taking her to her BFF's house since her mom ( my BFF) was going down to Long Beach in the morning and it was easier for all if my dad just picked her up from there- I told Sweet Pea to pack a bag and to make sure she had 'things' for Saturday.
As we were pulling out of the drive I asked if she had packed any DVD's to take and she said:
"You know, Papa has a LOT of movies just for me so there's no reason to. And I didnt' want to take mine and get confused later on so I thought it best to leave them"
Yeah - my 8 year old said that.
Back to Saturday - they watched no less than 6 movies ranging from "The Ant Bully" to "Dreamgirls"
(random assortment much?)
Sunday they woke up and made pancakes, bacon and eggs and relaxed until it was time for him to bring her home.
And I will fully admit that I bribed my dad with the promise of Babe's chilli to bring her home.
Yeah- I'm not at all ashamed.
His chilli is THAT good.
So he did.
And we ate.
And now we're stuffed.

It was such a great weekend.
Not too super busy but just enough to really enjoy the moments and I can honestly say that Ladies Night was a HUGE success.
Thanks in part to the wonderful Maria Aventurado of Slumber Parties who made all the ladies feel at home.
And my wonderful hubby and Dad who made it that much easier to relax and enjoy myself!!

what did you do this weekend???

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Thankful Thursdays.....

I mentioned last week that my friend Rachel is hosting Thankful On Paper (or T.O.P) this Holiday season and I am for sure participating!
Because I am somewhat of a rule I would like to thank the following 3 ladies because 
(sounds like I'm giving my Oscar speech)
All of these women have had some kind of impact on my life within the last year or so. Possibly without realizing it and without intending to.
That's what makes them all the more magical.
Without further is the short version of my thanks.........

- aka "Mrs.No.17cherrytreelane" - Thank You for being you. 
A strong Christian woman who is committed to her family, her faith and her friends. You have inspired me to begin and keep up with this 'blog thing' and challenge me to better in so many ways.
Through both our blogging and 'real life' friendship I have been inspired, encouraged and convicted by your words.
Thank you for always being true to yourself and your beliefs.
That kind of conviction is encouraging to the rest of us fence dwellers.
Thank you for also helping me to realize I AM kind of crafty!!

I don't even have the words to describe how your blog has changed my perspective on so many things and put so much into perspective for my.
I am in awe of your ability to be so candid and frank.
Your courageous attitude towards your 'crazy' inspires me to embrace my own and to think more outside the box.
Although we are not 'close friends' and are more accquaintances, I wanted to let you know that I appreciate you!
and THANKS so much for the florist recommendation!!
Obviously he did an AWESOME job!

 Hands down you were the surprise friendship of 2009. and I love you so much for that.
Thank you SO much for all your help with the wedding crafts and craziness.
Thank you for not going away after the wedding and for remaining a good friend! I admire so much about you and you give me strength when I need it the most and probably when you least realize it.
Thank you for listening to me bitch and moan and for always encouraging as well as challenging.
You are such a precious gem!!

You ladies have come to mean so much to me and although I don't see or speak to you all every day or even every week you are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for all that you have shown me and inspired in me!!

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

what I wore wednesday

For this week's installment of What I wore Wednesday.....
I bring you

Tired Mama

Chambray esque cotton button down: Nordstrom Rack
Capris: Styles for less? ( over 10 years ago)
Shoes: Nina

I was EXHAUSTED this morning and as you can see the weather in Cali is back to it's old tricks going from 65 one week to 96 a few days later.
So what's a girl to do but layer, layer, layer.
I knew the weather was going to be nice outside but inside the office was going to be the frozen tundra.
So I kept it simple with a 3/4 length button down (that I'm kind of obsessed with)  that I scored from the Rack a few months ago and some trusty capri's that are older than my daughter.
For reals.
I bought those pants in 1999.
Kind of excited they still fit and kind of concerned that I've held on to them for so long!
They were not expensive at all!
Topped it off with my favorite black flats
( I think the pointy toes give it a little more polish don't you?)
And a black leather jacket and I was ready for the day!

As usual I'm linking up with The Pleated Poppy for this......

What did YOU wear today?


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