Thursday, May 27, 2010

wedding wednesday - 59 days to wedded bliss

T.G.I.W y'all!!
I feel like this week has happened twice already.
It has been a long process BUT......
the invitations are finally done!!!
this has been one of the hardest yet most rewarding projects I have ever worked on.
that I'm not getting a grade for.
 Babe was such a trooper for helping me out and making sure things were constantly progressing.
He did ALL of the cutting of all the background paper
(so if somethings a little crooked - blame him => )
and worked hard to see this project through to the end.
There are several people I have to thank who all helped make this process go just a little bit easier and to kept me from tearing my hair out:
Babe -  I have never loved him so much as I did last night while he was diligently placing labels on envelopes and stuffing them ever so gently w/ the completed invitation.
His patience has been immeasurable.
He's also told me we were never doing this again either.

Next on my list - the fabulous Melissa Munding.
Seriously I can't thank this girl enough.
In the midst of her own wedding planning and finals she created the most amazing design for me!! 
love love love!

And then there's the feisty little firecracker known as "the other Amber" - as I posted here; she came over last week and saved my sanity by coming up with an easy way to incorporate my ribbon without making a glue-y mess.
thanks friend!

Next I have to give a HUGE shout out to the lovely Ms. Nesi Stewart at Print Masters in Los Alamitos
This wonderful woman allowed me to wander into her store on a Saturday afternoon, ask a million questions and then a million more, send emails re-iterating said questions and then scramble like a crazy person to get them picked up!
As my dad has been the "go-between" (as the store is located 2 min. from his house) he was able to meet Ms. Nesi and raved about her as well.
So if you all are in the Cypress, Long Beach area - go by and check her out!
They are awesome, accommodating,willing to work with you and no job is too large or small!!!
Thanks again Ms. Nesi!!!

So here we are in the home stretch..........just over two months to go and I am ready to move forward!
I found the cutest Pomanders ( see below - a.k.a"kissing balls") that I'm going to D.I.Y with some faux flowers  to spruce up the ceremony area and to save a little cash along the way.

I've already attempted one and it turned out pretty good.
I was only short a few flowers so it could have been filled in better but still a good/ fun project!
I just have to be sure it's going to cost less to D.I.Y. them than to buy them off of like Etsy or something.
SO excited about that project!

Next on my list though is to :
  • Decide on shoes
  • commission hair fascinator (fancy word for hair clip) on Etsy OR order feathers and see if this lovely lady can make one for me
  • locate a birdcage veil
  • find a place to either rent or cheaply purchase cylindrical vases for the centerpieces
  • make a trip to Moskatels in downtown L.A. for some faux flower craziness
  • finalize jewelry
  • find a florist to create the bouquets and corsages (orig. fell through)
  • order flower girl dresses and find shoes for them
  • put all vendor information into one location
  • sit down w/ wedding coordinator / producer and go over schedule
  • finalize the 'Wedding Week' schedule
  • Grand entrance song
whew!!!! I could go on & on!
but....... I don't' want to bore you!
and there will be more, more, more in the days/ weeks to come so get excited people!!!

we're getting MARRIED!!!!!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

tuesday truth

I have become that "woman".
You know the one.
Who gets engaged and is all  "oh I won't get all obsessive over shades of green" or
" I don't care WHAT they wear to the wedding....."
or better still 
"I'm not going to focus solely on the wedding. I'm going to make sure I have other things to talk about as well"
Yeah. that didn't happen..
Slowly but surely I have become "one of those people"
who can't seem to shut up about their upcoming nuptials,
tells everyone who will listen what new "fabulous" idea  you've just had or craft you've just finished.
All the while KNOWING that these people don't really care about the minutia the way I do.
But I find myself running off at the mouth to virtual strangers about centerpieces and shoe options!
how did this happen?
At what point did I turn into this slightly self -absorbed, wedding junkie??
I mean, I have ALWAYS liked a good wedding.
I dug the planning process, the details and all the elements in between so it's no surprise that I REALLY got into all the different elements I could when it came time to plan my own.
But I had no intention of becoming "that friend".
I even espoused as much to my Matron of Honor Michelle 
"Even though we are all wedding all the time over here I'm not going to be that friend who dominates every phone conversation with wedding details"
Her response: "yeah right. you will. it's okay though"
And she was 100% right.
So not what I intended but this wedding has truly taken on a life of its own and has become so much MORE than I ever thought!
And while I am "that person" for the next 60 days or so - please bear with me.
I am so excited I want to share it all with everyone all. the. time!!!
I can't help it!

(now I've got the Pointer Sisters in my head)
" I'm so excited....(do do do doodoodoo doo) and I just can't hide it!!! I'm about to lose control and I think  I LIKE it! "

So bear with me for the next 60 days y'all.
The updates will be coming fast and furious  so just embrace it......
and hey, if  you're really not interested.......don't read!

Monday, May 24, 2010

a magnificent monday

"oh what a beeeyouuuutiful morrrrrning 
oh what a beeeeyouuuutiful day
I've got a wonderful feeeeeeling, everything's going my way......"

pretty much what I woke up feeling like.
even though it's "Monday".
I just feel good. 
things are progressing at a rate in which I am happy with.
This weekend was quite productive and relaxing and that ALWAYS makes me happy.
We had a cake tasting on Saturday and that was delicious as usual
We finally decided on a cake.
Yes. an actual cake.
Originally I wanted cupcakes 
but since I am unable to bring in my own baker and use HER
 and all of her cupcake mastery.
I will 'settle' for a yummy tasting cake w/ AMAZING fillings.
So we can check that off the list.
Saturday I  also received a FABULOUS surprise in the mail from 
THIS amazing photographer as a 'thank you'.
No, Melissa - thank YOU!!!
Sunday it was all spring cleaning - we scrubbed the house from top to bottom.
Our vacuum has been on the fritz for the past 6 months or so ( I know- terrible) and I thought maybe we just needed a new filter cuz it's a BRAND.NEW. vacuum but couldn't ever find the actual filter.
Finally I got the bright idea that perhaps the filter just needed to be cleaned similar to that of the dryer.
I was right.
Babe vacuumed the stew out of the house yesterday!!! 
the residue was SO gross (granted we only have carpet upstairs)!
so glad that's done!
On the creative and crafty wedding note:
I tried my hand at a D.I.Y. Pomander (aka 'flower ball') using:
3 faux Carnation  flowers from Dollar Tree
4" Styrofoam ball
Total cost: $6.00.
I will post pics on this week's installment of Wedding Wednesday  - you will be amazed and impressed with all of my creativity and craftiness.
No, seriously you will.
And if you're not cuz you're so much more amazing than me.......fake it.

Happy Monday everyone!!!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

the "superwoman" syndrome

there's this strange myth going around these days:
women have super powers
not just super powers of persuasion
I mean people really and truly believe that because you are female you can
a) juggle more tasks at once
b) handle whatever life throws at you - while remaining poised
c) be everything to every body
d) do it ALL with no help

and while I will say that I'm certainly guilty of thinking that way it sometimes stinks to be pigeonholed into that kind of box.
Especially at a time you when you need help the most!!!!
But I digress.
I'm just amazed at all women do each day.
ALL women.
Not just the  working /stay at home mommies 
( although you ladies do more in a day than most do all week)
Women run this world in case you didn't know
(sorry to all you men out there who thought you were in charge - not so much fellas)
We marvel at the woman who has the time and ability to cook a homemade dinner 5 nights a week, clean the house, do the laundry and still please their men.
All while maintaining a ridiculous body weight and workout regimen.
But we have got to stop comparing ourselves to others! 

Case in point - the wedding  and the "invitation situation": 
I really think that I can "do it all" and don't need much help. 
Maybe a few folks here and there to bounce ideas off of but "I got this" right?
so wrong.

As evidenced by the length of time required to complete this task - from concept, to printing to creation ; I was assisted every step along the way.
And only because I finally gave in ...
I relented and asked for (gasp!) help!!
And you know what?
It didn't kill me.
It helped me SO much when this fabulous lady(with whom I share a name)
came to my rescue and brought not only the extra pair of hands I desperately needed
she came with fresh ideas and perspective.
EXACTLY what I needed.
and in perfect timing too.
All because I finally realized I don't always have to be the superwoman/mom/wife/friend.
I mess up.
Make mistakes and will need to reach out on occasion for assistance.
And that's fine.

What's not okay is me (or anyone else) making myself crazy because I am trying to prove some kind of point.
That's not fun.
Doesn't make me a good mom, wife, or friend.

Sometimes, just sometimes, we need to take off our SUPERWOMAN capes and let it rest
if only so we can get the reprieve we so desperately need before we go back to saving the world.
one load of laundry at a time.

Monday, May 17, 2010

Martini's, fabulous finds and Fringe

Well, it's Monday and I must say that as of right now - it's not too bad at all.
it was a pretty rad weekend.
We were able to sleep in both days which has been something of an anomaly as of late,
I got my hair done AND a much needed pedicure,
I hung out with my girlfriend and her sister on Sunday for our Hot Mom's Night Out.
we are SO going back to doing that once a month!!!
I might even start a Facebook fan page so everyone can join!!
Wouldn't that be fun!! 
On the wedding front - Invites are NOT finished. 
apparently my mind works faster than my hands......... so it's taking me a tad longer than I would like.
Not to worry though - I stopped off at Michael's on Thursday to get the ribbon and crystals I needed to add some PIZAZZ and was slightly disappointed to discover that they did not carry the shade of purple I required.
No worries though, I will make do with this other 'fun' shade.
then I get home and the color nazi ( Babe) is like - those don't match. 
Rather than go into a long diatribe about how it doesn't have to be an exact match,
I acquiesce and decide that I will stop off at the super discount ribbon/fabric place on my way to the hair salon.
So I did.
And it.was. 
HEAVEN.............rows upon rows of ribbon, tulle, faux flowers, hair clips, elastics and who's its and what's its galore!
I "got lost" in there for at least 45min. even though I found my ribbon after the first 10 min.
Forgot about all the wonderful treasures that store holds!!
Took a break from "the wedding" and watched pretty much the whole season of 'Fringe' with Babe and then began gluing the invites together and that took the rest of my evening
It was an all around chill weekend, we accomplished some things we set out to do and just made headway in others........but it was nice to kick back with Babe and my girlfriends for some giggles and love.
Not to mention those delicious martini's! 
(thanks Yard House )

what did you do?

Friday, May 14, 2010

Fantastic Friday

the actual amount of blogging in the last few weeks has left much to be desired.
On my part that is.
I'm sure you all couldn't care less if I post only once or twice a week.
I've been doing a LOT lately and by the time I get to blogging about it......
my brain has shut down
another perk to working on / looking at a computer ALL day.
By the time you have some "free" time - you don't want to look at one!
so that being said - I have gone back to (gasp!) journaling!!!
My mind is going crazy with a variety of topics and ideas , some of which are a little to personal for the blog-o-sphere so I just put pen to paper instead.
and its been helping a bit
but I've realized I enjoy blogging because of the feedback.
Not because I have  x number of followers but because of the lives I get to touch or peek into each day/week/comment.
I love that.
Anywho - since today is Friday (whoo hoo!!!)
I thought I would post about some FANTASTIC things that have happened or are happening:
In no particular order:
  • the toilet finally got fixed in Sweet Pea's bathroom!! Thank God!! having to manually lift the chain thingy was getting old. not to mention HIGHLY unsanitary. 
  • SUPER MEX in the middle of the week = GOOD. you should have some.
  • .I will be putting together my invitations ALL weekend. bring on the craft glue.
  • Sunday is our first HOT MOM's outing of the year!!! holla!! we will be giggling our hearts out come 4pm Sunday - if you find yourself bored; think of me. I'll be having a drink for you!
  • My birthday is in 3 weeks and 4 days and I'm getting married in 71 days.
  • I have some of the BEST friends a girl could ask for. seriously. I know I've said before how people have come out of the woodwork to help with this wedding but I am NOT KIDDING y'all. My girl Michelle is the  like for real.  Love that girl.
  • I get my hair done tomorrow!!! (and I might sneak in a pedicure)
  • house cleaning weekend!!! hooray for clean floors, clean clothes and fresh sheets!!
           What's making YOUR Friday Fantastic?

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

wedding wednesday - 73 days!!!!

Yesterday I turned a corner in the wedding planning/crazy person process.
I went and picked up my invitations.
like, for real - jump up and down squealing kind of excited.
and I did exactly that upon arriving at my Dad's and seeing how fabulous they turned out!!
I mentioned here the lovely Melissa Munding designed them based on the 'examples' I had and they came out even better than expected and EXACTLY how I imagined them!!

Of course it was too late to take a well lit picture of them - not to mention one camera is mal-functioning and the other is not charged.
So this is the only image I have 
(taken w/ my phone with the early morning dark in our office)
I cannot wait to finish putting them all together
( I have delusions that I can have it all done by Saturday Sunday at the latest)
and to be able to show you all the final product!
this has been such a source of stress labor of love that I am glad to have seen it through to the end!
I stayed true to my vision AND came in UNDER budget!!!
who's a budget savvy bride?
So tell me - what do you think??????

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

the GREAT shoe debate

so as you all read here  
(you read that right?) 
I found my blessed wedding shoes and placed an order for them to be shipped this week!
Or not.
Saturday morning I received an email from said company that my shoes were out of stock and were unlikely to become available by my wedding date and would I like to order them in Black or Champagne?
Ummm no.
That will not work.
I ordered PURPLE because I wanted PURPLE.
now - some folks do not understand nor appreciate my desire to wear colorful kicks on my special day.
and that's fine.
but if you know me at all......
you get it.
heck, even if you've only read this blog a few times - you probably get it!
 having said that I am now in a shoe quandary as I am faced with  :
what am I going to wear now? 
thus begins yet another massive purple shoe search.
so here's what I've found so far that I  LURVE.......

option A)

option B)
option C)

option D)
option E)

THIS is where you come in my lovely friends
See I am terribly indecisive when it comes to things of this nature.
Now some of you have seen my dress so you have a better idea of what shoe would "go" better
and some of you have not.
Alas I cannot post a link or an image as I can't risk it getting back to Babe.
Suffice to say that the dress is a bit dramatic and has lots of soft layers..........
something like this 


so with that in mind  what would YOU shoes?
(hahahaaha! - insert my warped sense of humor here)
I'm torn!!


Friday, May 7, 2010

wedding wednesday - a few days late

on today's episode of wedding Wednesday we have_
the initial fitting!
whoo hoo!!
So last night me and one of my bridesmaids and another friend cruised out to DB for my first dress fitting!
As you may remember from this  and this I have been working my tush off to get/stay in shape for this wedding and it has paid off!! 
I was able to slip into my dress with ease and it even had to be taken in quite a bit as well!!
It was as pretty as I remembered and it made me all the more excited.
78 days to go!
can't believe it's almost here!
this whole wedding planning process is a bit like giving birth in that you wait for so long for this one blessed event to occur
you blink
and the moment has come, blink again and it's over!
Trust that I am doing my best to savor every moment and enjoy this process.
Babe and I have had so much fun doing this, together.
Some days/topics are a bit more stressful than others but we have learned a LOT about ourselves and the kind of relationship we have in the process.
It's been a long road and we are finally seeing the light at the end.....

on another note.
I finally ordered my shoes.
I was having a major small panic attack when I discovered the cuteness that are these
were not available in my size on the  brand's website.\
Nor were they available on
ok so after my mini meltdown - I regrouped and did a massive search via every search engine available to me and finally found them here
so I am a happy lady today.
Invitations - so you may remember me saying the super fabulous Melissa Munding designed the layout for my invites even though she's not a"trained" graphic designer and knocked them out of the box!
However, they had to be re-sized w/ a 'bleed & crop marks' so I sent them to my future brother in law who was able to help me out w/ that.
 I was finally able to send them to the printer (thanks Dad for dropping the paper off)
and they will be ready to pick up next week!!!

this is a HUGE relief and I couldn't be happier with results!
once they are finished I will post a pic for you all to see!

hooray for weddings.
Hooray for friends and family willing to help
and hooray for the weekend!!

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

doing without

i got a text from my uncle this morning.
now he's pretty funny + sarcastic 90% of the time so he's my kind of person
but his text really made me think
He said: "what am I going to do on Sunday and who with?"
and instantly my shroud of grief came back over me
this is the first mothers day without his beloved mother.
the first time in years that I can't call my gramma and tell her 'thank you' for being an amazing matriarch and mothering ME as well as raising my mom, aunts and uncles.
the first time I won't hear her laugh on the other end as Sweet Pea recounts the events of her week.
and it hurts.
And then I think of my aunts, uncles and my mother - how they must be feeling and what is going through their minds.
I cannot really fathom that kind of emotion.
(and to be honest I don't really want to - this is hard enough)
But I can (and do) pray for them and their hearts - that they may heal, and the wound becomes less painful over time.
(your scars are evidence your wounds have healed)
Especially this weekend.
I know grief is like an ocean - it ebbs and flows like the tide.
Some days are better than others and lately those better days have been more and more
but there is still a sadness there.
an emptiness that something/someone is missing from this life.
and while I know she is in a better place,surrounded by those she loved who had gone before her,
I still wish she was here with us.
How can I not?
I'm getting married in a few short months and it was my intention and my dream to have my Gramma front and center for that blessed event.
I envision her smile as I walk down the aisle and hear her laugh as Babe and I 'jump the broom'.
I want to feel her arms around me when its all over and tells me "you did good".
But I can't.
and she won't be there.
Not in the physical sense.
I know she will be watching over me - as she always has, in life and in death.
My  guardian angel.
Always looking out, praying  for me and believing in me.
I love you Gramma!!!
To my mother, my aunts ( Sylvia, Rosemary, Sheila and Debbie) my uncles (Earl, Major and Danny)
my cousins ( Damon, Deon, Noelle and Erin)
and my brother (Jason) -
this will be the hardest year for us.
Things that we are used to are no longer
but as long as we have each other and we stay a family in the way our matriarch would have wanted I have no doubt that we will get through.
When your days are dark and the light on the other end seems too far - reach out and we will be there.
we are a family and it is now up to us to maintain that bond.
Please always remember that you are never alone so long as we are alive.
I love you all dearly and wish you all a wonderful weekend full of warm memories of your mother, our grandmother.
Remember who she was, what she meant , to all of us as a whole and to the world.
A true Proverbs 31 woman.

BFF's & babies

i am surrounded by babies and best friends.
not necessarily in that order but it's a good feeling to have.
especially now.
I think I've posted about how I've been feeling out of sorts and just all over the place with all that we've had going on,
so it should come as no surprise that I have been reaching out to my "girls"  a LOT lately.
aside from the fact that these women are going to stand beside me on my wedding day - they actually 'get' me.
I was filling out my calendar for this month and realized that somehow I managed to finagle not one but TWO girls nights this month!
shut the front door!
How did I do that you ask?
Well - once upon a time , my girlfriends and I formed the "Hot Mom's Club"
meaning we are all the same age and have children and could occasionally use a night out,
so once a month for about a year we would meet for dinner and just hang out until we absolutely had to go home.
Then one moved up north for about a year and half so we stopped.
When she moved back we swore we would start back up but then there were pregnancies, moves, new jobs etc.....
basically - LIFE got in the way
These past few months have been chaotic for us all and it was high time we reconnected
so I scheduled some 'face time' with the ladies.
 to top that off the BEST MOVIE EVER is coming out on May 28th and we got tickets to a semi-private screening!!!
whoo hoo!!!
Ladies night!!!!
I can't wait!
This is much needed time out and about for ALL of us.

then there are the babies!
Oh they keep coming left and right!
so many people I know are either pregnant or just gave birth!
One of my co-workers just had an adorable little girl with a head full of hair last week,
I'm going to a baby shower this weekend for a former co-worker, my good friends little girl just turned 3 this week and "the worm" 
(as I so affectionately refer to him - don't worry his mother knows and is okay with this term of endearment......) 
is trying to crawl and rolling all over the place!
A couple of my other high school friends are pregnant/just had a baby and it just seems like there is new life being presented everywhere
and it makes me happy.
to see how lives are changing and families are growing.......sigh.
it fills my heart with joy!!

these are happy and joyous times and I want to bask in all the love I see daily.
sometimes it's a bit too much for me to take in all at once.......
but I wouldn't want it any other way!

Monday, May 3, 2010

musings on monday

so the weekend was GREAT and you can read more about it in the rundown
yesterday I was be-bopping around the bedroom while getting ready as I discovered Babe's "Oldies" mix on his ipod.
well because my soul was born during another time period.
a time where there were juke joints, sock hops and a raging party consisted of coke ,popcorn and 'Twistin the Night Away'.
So as I was boogy-ing to my hearts content to Sam Cooke and some of my Motown faves - I started thinking 'wow. this reminds me of my college days."
and then thought about it.
and promptly burst into a fit of giggles.
Sam Cooke reminds me of being in college.
Um. Yeah.
thats sounds a bit strange and you're probably all like 'heyyyyy wait a're not that old'
and you're right. I'm not.
But I LOVE older music and I had a friend in college who lent me his Sam Cooke CD.
changed my life and I haven't been right ever since.
So yeah - I was 19 and singing along to "Everybody loves to Cha Cha Cha" and would belt out "Having Party" while cleaning the house and dancing with anyone who would twirl me around.
(usually Babe - though we were 'just friends' at this stage)
good times.
It was amazing to me how a few songs could take me back to a simpler time.
A time when my only responsibility was to make to class each day and get my homework done.
It all seems so long ago............
but as Babe spun me around the room, with a familiar glint in his eye I was reminded......of those times and of the new love we had and how far we've come and I looked at him and it hit me............this. is. all. happening.
and it couldn't feel more right.

the rundown - new eyes, some giggles & bbq

whew! Monday again!
and the beginning of a whole new month!
one month closer to my birthday and two months closer to our wedding day!
 still so much to do!
this weekend was a bit more relaxing than the last few have been but busy non-the-less.
Saturday we hit the post office bright and early to order our passports
(Viva Los Cabos!!!)
then ran to Target to get some .....well I mean does it even matter? it's Target!
But I wanted to get another t-shirt and some wife beater tanks (they were on sale for $6) and are SUPER soft and comfy.
stopped at the store to get some xtra meat for Sunday's grill fest
then it was off to get a hair cut for Babe at the Cox's!
Love that they are our neighbors AND friends!
After that we went to lunch at our FAVORITE place and it was such a lovely day - we decided to eat outdoors!
AND we had a coupon! 
Score one for our team!
After lunch it was off to the eye doctor 
( i have never been so excited to have my eyes checked in my life)
It was a new office/ doctor and they were so nice!
Very accommodating as they saw all 3 of us and allowed us to share an exam room as well.
after I got my "new eyes" I felt like a whole new person! 
have you ever worn  disposable lenses longer than you're supposed to?
Not a good look.
To top off the day Babe had a "boys night" and went to watch the fight while Sweet Pea and I stayed home and made some rings ( yes as in jewelry ) and watch a movie.
Sunday was super relaxing. FINALLY got to sleep in but not too late as we had some cleaning to do around the house and we had some folks over for dinner.
My dad graced us w/ his presence as did Babe's mom, brother and nephew.
I somehow got Babe to agree to grill out and make his 'famous' chicken ,. so it was my job to take care of all the side dishes.
Grilled corn, baked beans, pasta salad and cole slaw!
Since I was on a roll I decided to hook up some fancy Madagascar Bourbon Vanilla Bean cupcakes.

Nice, relaxing day with the family.
The weather was nice, not a lot of dishes, good conversation, positive attitudes.......
I couldn't have asked for better!
Love those days!!!!

What did you do this weekend?

an OFF day

Yesterday was one of those rare times when I was off in the middle of the week.
and fortunately for me it happened to be a nice day out as well.
(minus these prairie like winds - what the heck????)
I had an appointment at the DMV early in morning and a bunch of other pertinent matters to attend to - not to mention I have been both physically & emotionally maxed out the last few weeks and  truly needed the reprieve.
Especially since our weekends have been so packed as of late.
After my errands I stopped by my neighbor friend Niki's house and ended up running  a few errands with her! LOL!
I had to share with her about the new Cynthia Vincent for Target shoe collection
check it out here  
And we even managed to pick out some super CAHUUTE shoes for her as well!!

To top it off my ADORABLE co-worker and friend went into labor in the wee hours of the morning and by late evening had delivered an 8lb baby girl!!!
So. Excited. 
like. beyond.
that news was pretty much the icing on my cake for the day!
Then I hooked up some yummy chicken tacos for dinner and Babe and I caught up on Flash Forward!! 
(We're like two weeks behind)
That shows never ceases to amaze me!

Babe even found the time to fix the broken headlight on my car!

it was a great day to be off and I enjoyed it to the max!!!


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