Since I hosted a ladies night over the weekend that was somewhat of a science experiment
this past week I have been thinking a lot about my friendships.
And I don't mean like crazy-blow-up in your face science experiment.
I mean like a scientific study.
See I have all different kinds of friends.
Ages, creeds, colors, races and religions.
And I love to bring them all together to see how people interact.
(I was a Mass Communication major in college , who's favorite class was organizational communication, so I am slightly obsessed with how people deal with each other.)
Sometimes I cringe, sometimes I giggle and sometimes I just shake my head.
I often wonder about how people become and remain friends as they go through life.
It seems we all go through stages when one of our friends is more dominant in our life either because of where we live, what we do or what we believe.
I truly believe people come into your life for a reason and you theirs.
You may not realize it at the time, but that person you go to lunch with everyday at work - needs that.
They look forward to that time with you and the "inside jokes".
The same can be said for lifelong friends.
YOU make think you have no room for them in your life now, or that you are in "totally different places" but they are still there for a reason.
Perhaps to remind you of who you were and to show you how far you've come.
Perhaps you are an inspiration to them!
Currently I am under the impression that we seek out people who fill a void in our lives or people who inspire us.
I have several friends now, that if asked ten years ago, I wouldn't have said I would be friends with and there are others that I would have sworn up and down would be the BEST of friends but haven't spoken to in years.
A reason, A season or a lifetime.
Cycle in and cycle out.
I think its up to us to decide who stays and for how long and to determine what if anything these friendships bring to our lives.
Because if at age 30 we are simply friends because "we've been friends for the last 20 years"
and there is NOTHING else there.......maybe its time to move on?