My god-sister posted a link on her FB page that struck a cord with me.
It's an article from the NY times entitled:
Skin Deep - Black Hair, Still Tangled in Politics
Touching on the subject of African-American women and their hair.
It also discussed the First Lady's hair style and that of her children.
Apparentlythe eldest Malia, was wearing her hair in twists for the summer and some pundit deemed her "as unfit to represent America for stepping out unstraightened. "
That definitely struck a chord with me.
See as a kid I was never one of those girls who had "good hair".
Meaning my hair's texture had to be worked with.
It wouldnt just lay flat without the help of a pressing comb or a relaxer of some sort.
Or be soft and flowing when wet.
And I was always subconsciously aware of this "good hair" mystique.
I spent the majority of my life chemically relaxing my hair and destroying it in the process. Save for a few years ago when I grew out the "perm" and just press it straight.
The whole concept of "good hair" came about during slavery when certain individuals were given preferential treatment based on skin color and hair texture.
A lot of black women today have "hair issues" simply because of how they perceived themselves as a child or because some family member or friend told them their hair was "nappy".
They go to extreme lengths to make their hair look "more acceptable" to the viewing public.
Subsequently a lot of those women have other "issues" as well.
This distresses me quite a bit.
I have read a few books on the matter such as:
"Hair Rules - The Ultimate Hair-Care Guide for Women with Kinky, Curly or Wavy Hair" by A. Dickey and am excited for Chris Rock's production of "Happy to be Nappy" as I think it will really open the eyes of the general public to the struggles women of color have with their hair.
I have a child with what and older generation would classify "good hair".
Its soft. Naturally curly/wavy when wet and lays flat when pressed out.
And she does like to have her hair pressed out so it moves in the wind.
But she LOVES her hair in its natural and curly state.
That makes my heart happy.
I do not want my child to go through life feeling as though her hair is how she is perceived by the current world.
Especially when she looks up to the President's two young daugthers.
They are HER role models and the fact that they are showcased wearing varying hairstyles,
be it blown out and straight, braided, twisted or in ponytails,
it lets her know that she can wear her hair however she wants and her hair is NOT what defines her.
Even though most of the people she see's on TV or in magazines don't look like her or have hair like hers.
I want her to always be secure enough to rock whatever hairstyle she sees fit.