Friday, January 12, 2018

2018: My Word For The Year

I used to pick a word to represent me each year for years. And then at the end of 2016 I just didn't have it in me. I only half committed to my 2016 word because 2015 was so wild. I embodied badassery but I didn't always feel it in my soul the way I had the year before with hustle. When I choose a word, I'm picking something that not only represents me, but also the way in which I want to live my life for the year and what I want people to remember when they encounter me.  

For the longest, I was stuck. My girlfriend's Sili and Lucrecer have been pumping up our community for weeks getting us all to think on what our own words might be while sharing how they came up with theirs. Lu is even doing custom watercolor's of your chosen word which got me more excited about choosing mine. But it was taking me a minute to come up with the one word that I wanted to carry me for an entire 365 days. As a Gemini trying to commit to just the one thing was blowing me as well. So many choices! And after hemming and hawing and trying words out and long talks with good girlfriends; I realized it's been there all along.

See I've been itching to get some new ink. Two pieces to be exact one; a quote the other a lotus flower. I found the most exquisite design on Pinterest and it's been taunting me for over a year. 

A lotus blooms tend to be associated with a rebirth and that's sort of where I feel I'm at in my life. The last few years have been trying and full of lessons on life. But when I think on this year and all that I am ready to manifest and welcome in my life I realize that in order to do so, I must flourish
In all manner of being and that's what lotus blossoms do, they flourish in the light. Though you can't always see the depth of their roots they bloom and bring forth a glorious glow to the natural. That's what I aim for in my life as well. 

After spying an identical tattoo on my design crush Neffi Walker I took it as sign. Not only am I supposed to have this tattoo and that's most likely where I'll place mine, this lotus is a symbol for me to take this year to flourish. 

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verb (used without object)

to be in a vigorous state; thrive:
a period in which art flourished.
to be in its or in one's prime; be at the height of fame, excellence,influence, etc.
to be successful; prosper.
to grow luxuriantly, or thrive in growth, as a plant.

All of those definitions embody the type of energy I plan to produce this year. Not only did I choose a word I also chose, as Sili calls them anchor words, kind of a guide to keep you on track and get you back to your word. My anchor words are simple; Root, Bloom, Glow
Oddly how they all correlate to the lotus flower as well. There's a theme happening here and all the signs are pointing towards yes. 

Root to implant or establish deeply:
the embedded or basal portion of a hair, tooth, nail, nerve, etc.
the fundamental or essential part:
the root of a matter.

Root - in order to flourish I have to root. This means being grounded in myself, my belief in my abilities and my truth. Telling my stories and getting to the root of what matters most. 

Bloom:a flourishing, healthy condition; the time or period of greatest beauty, artistry, etc.

To bloom I'll have to allow my gifts to flow through in and through out me. It will take courage to let people see the dark parts. The actual roots so to speak but it will lead me to the next level. 

image via Instagram 


a light emitted by or as if by a substance heated to luminosity; incandescence.
brightness of color.

Glow - reach for the moon, the stars and beyond the sun. I want to light up the world. Not in the I want to be a star/famous sense but I want to shine my light for the whole world to see and be the light I want to see in the world as well.

That's not too much to ask right? Stay tuned to see how it goes. 

Have you chosen a word for this year?

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Handling The Post Holiday Hangover Like A Boss

The holidays are over and we are back to our regularly scheduled programs with a few fun twists. It's currently a dreary day in normally sunny So Cal and it's sort of perfect for this time of year. Finally the cool weather we've been waiting for! Aside from the fact that people can't drive and no one wants to go out in it,we desperately need the rain so we'll take it. 
But it was nice to have a break.
To have time to lay in bed a bit and just be still. To not have to rush in the morning. Get up, go downstairs and sip my coffee first thing without rushing a kid through breakfast. To read a magazine and even a book without having to look at the clock and figure out where I'm supposed to be. Staying in our pajamas all day and only leaving the house for food. The stuff dreams are made of really. But still, I was sort of ready for it all to come to an end. I love my kids and time with the family is everything but we had a LOT of togetherness. at least it felt like we did. Nineteen days is a LONG time to be hanging out. And I was itching to get back to work. 

It's been a while since I've posted here and I'm aiming to change that in the new year as well. I took a much needed break from blogging to be present with my family  over the last month and really try to enjoy this holiday season. Last year threw us for such a loop that we didn't really want to do much over the break but rest and this year we were able to really relax, make some fun memories and enjoy each other's company and that of our friends and families. It's honestly one of my favorite times of the year. I don't mind the "holiday hustle" because I know at the end of at all there will be good food, laughs with the fam and full heart ready to start the new year. I also wanted to be sure I was bringing y'all the fresh content you so deserve and have come to know both here and on my other channels. 

One thing I do miss though, is the glow. The lights from the tree, garlands and various twinkle lights make my house look like a disco ball and I love it. I get sad to take it all down and everything feels so bleak and sad. Everything seems less shiny and fun. Which is why the weather this week has been perfect. I have the post holiday blues and I just want to hunker down and be still, but of course there are things that must be done. This is such a struggle post holiday season. Getting back into the swing of things can be a shock to the system but I like to spice things up to keep me motivated.  

Which is why I signed up for a month of reformer Pilates classes so that should be interesting. Baby Ninja started judo and the teenager has almost daily play rehearsal as well as bi-weekly judo! No doubt, it's going to be a busy few weeks over here. I'm kind of okay with that. 
So this weekend I took the time to fill out the calendars, schedule out photo shoots, posts and all the behind the scenes elements that go into making this all happen. I work better when I'm organized. 

And I added more twinkle lights to my office to keep up the glow factor.

How do you combat the hangover that comes post- holiday? 

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

5 Outfits To Prove You NEED Over The Knee Boots

Let's talk about boots shall we? There are so many different styles, textures and colors that it's a bit hard to keep up at times. I'm a huge fan of them but I don't own nearly as many as I'd like. If you'd ask me years ago, I would've told you that I wasn't sure I could pull off over the knee boots or that they were even really for me and my lifestyle but in recent years I've come to change my stance on this after a mad search for black flat OTK's (as they're known in the fashion world) four years ago. Now I feel like I need to add a variety of colors and heel heights to my collection. Lately, I'm finding myself in love with the idea of dresses and over the knee boots. Shirt dresses, sweater dresses, t-shirt dresses, floral print dresses and more. I can picture so many ways to style them I had no choice but to head to Polyvore and see what I could pull together. 

This is what happens when I'm styling for other people and holiday shopping at the same time. I end up on a creative styling spree of my dreams while not spending a single dime. Which is great for my bottom line and my CFO stays off my back. 

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Can we just talk about how perfectly boho chic this look is? I'm not usually one for florals but paired back to over the knee camel colored boots, a stunning oxblood fedora and dangling earrings it's asking to be taken to a museum or botanical garden for an impromptu photo shoot. 

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There is so much about this ensemble that speaks to me. Simple yet yet makes such a statement. This like my ideal work at home mom life. A little bit sexy, a whole lot stylish and room to eat snacks comfortably. And oxblood boots? Sign me up please. 

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Come through grey boots! I wish the weather were cool enough to wear this on a daily basis. I'd be all over it. Faux fur coat and high boots? Yep. I'm ALL in. This is screaming 'dinner date with my husbae. And who doesn't love a stylish hat? Particularly good for those days your hair just won't cooperate. 

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What's black white and red all over? A checked shirt dress, semi-flat boots and a stylish scarf. Definitely my style.The mixing of larger and smaller checks/plaids gives it an edgy feel while still being cute and still casual(ish) enough to not get stared at while cruising Target. Naturally a red lip is in order for that extra pop of color and sass. 

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I said I wasn't into florals but this particular dress is begging to be paired back to this fun teal pair. By doing so it's actually making me re-consider this dress and not just pass over it while browsing the racks. A great day date look as well as brunch, lunch with the girls or just a day out on the town. 

Clearly my style is evolving yet again as evidenced by all these outfit choices, now only if I could work my magic to make all these pieces appear in my closet without breaking my budget. That would be a holiday miracle. 

Which look is your favorite? 

Monday, November 27, 2017

Saturday Chill

I love Saturday's. I don't always know where the day is going to take me so getting dressed is kind of an adventure. Do I need to be kind of sporty or kind of chic? How do I do both and not look like I'm trying too hard?
Remember those fresh kicks I shared the other day? Well I figured if I'm going to really consider purchasing them, I should probably style them right?

Saturday Chill

I'm obsessed with Rihanna's Fenty Beauty line and am anxiously anticipating her Stunna lip color (red for everyone) due out next week as the Fenty Glow lip gloss is in permanent rotation in my purse. But I love a good red lip so I can't wait to add that to my collection as well. But back to my Saturday look. I like to be comfortable but I also want to be cute. No matter what. And y'all know my love of a graphic tee goes DEEP and that paired with jeans or these fun shiny faux leather leggings, a leather bomber and I've got the perfect 'cool mom' look. This can take me from brunch with the girls, errands and possibly a trip to the movies with the fam. All in day's work for a mom. I could even wear them to a birthday party (because we're about to get back on that five-year old party circuit). I can see these pieces becoming staples in my wardrobe and make no apologies for the fact that you might see me rocking them several weekends in a row.

What's your go-to weekend look?

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Getting Lifted - Lashes That Is

Why is it that boys have all the luck with eyelashes? My brother, my husband and my son all have covetable eyelashes. Mine are hella curly which is awesome but they don't do much beyond that. And some of them like to commit suicide INTO my eyeballs which, as a contact wearer is no bueno. I'm not a fan. My husband has these long wispy lashes and my son got a dope combination of both of our lashes which means they basically look like my favorite pair of false lashes. Lucky little dude. 

I'm also the person who does not leave the house without mascara on. Seriously. If I'm somehow out without it, it's because it's zero dark thirty and I don't think anyone will see me. And even then please believe I have a tube in my purse for back up. 
I've seen friends getting lash extensions for the last few years but was super on the fence (and just a tiny bit terrified) until earlier this year. I declared that when I could squeeze it into my schedule and budget I too,was going to have long luscious lashes.
Luckily for me I was introduced to Sara the owner of Natural Lash & Brow in my hometown and she introduced me to eyelash lift.

Have you ever heard of an eyelash lift? I hadn't up until Sara suggested it. And since I have been low-key obsessing about lash extensions, when Sara suggested a lift I was game. 
I am all about anything that makes my mom life easier. Not fooling w/ my eyelashes and applying layer after layer of mascara to make them look decent or fighting w/ lash strips to add length and volume each day? Sign me up. 


So what is a lash lift and why do you want one? (trust me you want one) It's exactly what it says, it's a lift for your lashes. Instead of curling them more, it lifts them to new heights and lengths and takes away the morning eyelash curler  mascara struggle. 
Who doesn't want more volume, lengthier lashes? No one, that's who. 

Immediately after application I could see a difference (well, after I put my glasses on because a sister is blind y'all). but I was super impressed. Admittedly I was nervous about how it was going to turn out but I was already smitten out the box. I couldn't wait to see what they would look like in a few days and after a swipe of mascara. After the treatment I was instructed not to get them wet or wear any makeup for 24 - 48 hrs which was a bit tricky as I had a brunch date the next morning but hey that's what big shades  and lipstick are for right? 

The lift lasts up to 8 weeks which is ideal for a busy mom. No, trying to squeeze in bi-monthly appointments for touch ups and no need to worry about lash glue messing up your natural lashes.

Almost four weeks later I'm still smitten. My morning routine has been cut in half and I barely wear any mascara at all! It took about 12 hours but even my husband noticed the visible difference and was impressed with the length I know have. 


I am absolutely willing to do the lift again and can't wait to see how it looks with extensions added in for even more volume! And can I just tell you how dope Sara is? Her whole vibe is in alignment with mine in that we strive to help women feel their best and find their inner shine. She does hers with lashes and brows, I do mine with clothing. It's like a match made in heaven. 


If you're local to So Cal give Sara at Naturel Lash & Brow a call and let her make your eyelash dreams come true! 

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Rose Gold, Rose Quartz and Rosé

I'm not big on dressing up for the holidays and usually the week leading up to Thanksgiving and Christmas has me running around like a chicken with it's head cut off in jeans and sneakers. I like to keep things simple and be comfortable, but I also like to be cute. The weekend of Thanksgiving is when my bestie and I have our annual bottomless mimosa brunch. And I do mean annually
She doesn't live here any more so we don't get to sit around and cackle as often as we like. She's also one of like, five people I would cross several freeways for so when she comes to town; it's going DOWN. We brunch hard and for hours. It's just what we do.
And we all know brunch is just as much about being cute as it is about the mimosas and the food. So for me, an outfit that brings all of that to into play is really what's poppin. 

My homegirl Xenia just launched a new limited edition sweatshirt "Rose Quartz Is My Homegirl" and I legit SCREAMED when I saw it. 

thanksgiving week

Rose quartz was the second crystal I ever owned thanks to her and she gifted it to me. Honestly, ever since that moment, my life has changed in so many ways. So when she first dropped it as a tee I snatched it up, post haste. But when it arrived, I knew it wasn't 'for me' per se and had to pass it on. So I in turn, gifted the tee to my other crystal carrying homegirl. She posted a photo wearing it a few weeks back and I was instantly salty I hadn't bought another one. And then this sweatshirt drops just in perfect timing with the weather so I knew it was a sign and I had to have it. I also found these rose gold Nike's and was like well they just go together! Y'all know I'm about that sneaker game and statement tee life. Paired with some stunna shades and my favorite lip gloss from Fenty Beauty? Giiirrrrl. You won't be able to tell me nothing at brunch. NOTHING. 

This outfit also works when hanging out with the fam over the holidays and we all know you can't really show up someplace, eat up all the good food and not bring something. So even if you're not cooking, a bottle of rosé is always a good idea. Sometimes, two bottles is better. 

Just saying. 

What are your favorite outfits to wear around the holidays?

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H&M slim fit jeans
$26 -

NIKE rubber sole shoes

Ray-Ban ray ban glasses
$125 -

Puma lip gloss

Crewneck sweatshirt

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Undercover Sneaker Lover

As my style has evolved over the years there are is something that has remained consistent: I'm kind of obsessed with sneakers.
And I have been for years. If you look at photos from my college years, that's pretty much all that's in our closet and my roommate had an even better collection than I did. We had everything from shell toes to air max's and puma's, we did not discriminate. 
Admittedly there was a time when I didn't want to wear them so much and was 'all heels all the time' because I thought I "needed" to wear them to be taken seriously as wife and mother (snort) but as I've gotten older (and had more kids) I've realized, I'm actually a sneaker head at. I also happen to enjoy heels. But that's not my every day shoe of choice. 
Duality and balance. That's what it's all about.

Currently I'm crushing everything Nike. I'm not 100% brand loyalist as I do love my Adidas shell toes but for the last few years - Nike has been killing the game for me. They've been really doing their part to keep things fresh and current. They're so on trend I can't stand it and recently dropped a pair of rose gold air max that I absolutely lost my mind over. I discovered them just last week and they're already sold out. I even went so far to reach out to my friends that work for the brand (yeah I got a sneaker guy, a couple actually; ask about me) and they both said no dice.
I know all the fashionistas copped a pair and I'm super jelly about it! I was just waiting to get paid again!
I have never wanted a pair of Air Max's so badly! But, I still found a few others that made my heart go pitter pat. Gold, rose gold, lavender and midnight blue? Be still my heart. 
I only wish I could afford to stock my closet with all eight pair but 1) that would be pricey and a little excessive 2) I'm still shooting for somewhat of a minimalist approach to my closet so I'm also trying to pare down a bit. But damn if I can't think of a way to style all of these and how dope they'd look on my feet. I mean - do you see how sick those lavender Air Force One's are? They scream: Amber! 

Matter of fact, I might be over due for some new kicks.......

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